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i’m not a big fan of applebees in general, but this response is awesome. joking about rape is indeed inappropriate and in bad taste, and i’m glad that they actually said that!
via: soyxicana: dayyyyyyum. go applebee’s!
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25 Facts about Rape in America →
Prepare to be infuriated! From the Ms. Blog:
9. Percentage of rapes that result in incarceration: 0.35 percent
14. Two of the top five cities in the U.S. with the most “unfounded” (i.e., false or baseless reports, according to police) rapes: New Orleans and Baltimore
15. Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by New Orleans police in 2008: 60 percent
25. Number of people who have signed a letter urging the FBI to change its definition of rape: 2,019
Visit Ms. Blog for the full list. What’s going on NOLA? 60% of reported rapes are unfounded?! I’m gonna have to rethink your status as my fav city in the US :(
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#DearJohn: Resources for the digital activist →
tiger beatdown has some great talking points and info on HR3.
- HR3 makes permanent the Hyde Amendment, which prohibits the use of federal funds for a legal medical procedure. As it stands, Hyde must be renewed each year.
- HR3 will make it harder for rape victims to seek justice, by creating a hierarchy of rape that is based on the worst elements of rape culture. HR3 is based on the idea that “good” people are only raped by strangers and “good” people are the only ones deserving of medical care.
read the full article at tiger beatdown.
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Petition telling Etsy to remove the rape greeting card →
There’s a petition on change.org now telling Etsy to remove the rape congratulation greeting cards. Only 352 people have signed it (up from 296 when i signed last night). Please go sign it and pass this link along!!
I reported the card on Etsy right after i posted the link and so far i have gotten no response from them. Maybe they will not ignore a petition signed by 500 people?
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Etsy calls "Congratulations on your rape" greeting card "artistic expression" →
the description of the card reads “Get creeped on, get raped? Know someone that has? Then this card is for them.” the seller’s name is youstupidbitch. this is all incredibly offensive but what is most offensive is Etsy’s reply to a blogger that complained:
…It is important to us that we allow members of the community to express their own sensibilities, and to develop their shop identity to suit themselves and their market. What is offensive to some may be intended as a statement about culture by an artist.
Check out the link for the whole story, and then contact Etsy to let them know that rape and joking about rape is not artistic expression and it is offensive to everyone.
Tell Yale to Discipline Fraternity for Pro-Rape Chant (follow link to sign the petition).
“No means yes. Yes means anal!” What is this alarming pro-rape statement?
Why, it the little ditty that Yale Delta Kappa Epsilon (DKE) fraternity pledges chanted on Wednesday as they marched around Old Campus, where most first-years are housed. That means lots of 18-year-old women embarking on their first term of university life.
Other chants included “Fucking sluts” and “My name is Jack, I’m a necrophiliac, I fuck dead women, and fill them with my semen.” This isn’t the first time Yale has had this kind of misogynistic incident; in fact, it’s not even the first time the “no means yes” chant has been used.
The fraternity is engaging in a discussion about sexual violence with the Women’s Center, but this isn’t enough. With one in four college women victims or rape or attempted assault during their time on campus, this is too serious an issue to let slide by without disciplinary action.
Via: Jennifer McAdoo
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I love it when Dan Savage verbally slaps someone in the face for being a complete and total asshole. Savage, ftw, as usual. →
i don’t read dan savage regularly, but this is an awesome response to a horrible question from a person who really ought to be ashamed and should not claim to know what “love” is let alone be in it.
what boggles my mind is that this guy says he “can’t help but wonder if it borders on rape”. well let’s see, your girlfriend was so drunk she doesn’t remember what happened and later finds out someone that was “helping her throw up” took advantage of her when she was blacked out? what the hell would it be other than rape? can someone blacked out consent to sex? and even though HE is the one who “cant help but wonder if it borders on rape” he throws her out.
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Possible trigger. Definite rage-inducer. But fuck yeah Dan Savage.
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this is awesome, oh yeah.
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THIS is the appropriate reaction to rapists.
Oh yes.
I know my brother would respond the same way.
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Today, I got a “Avoid Being a [Rape] Victim” sheet from a college professor that told me I shouldn’t wear a ponytail, talk on my cellphone in public, or be in a grocery store parking lot.
wonderful! this goes back to a conversation i was having with a friend who lives on a college campus. why do so many things tell women how to “prevent” being raped? men can stop [most] rape. it’s not about what a woman wears, or how she looks, or if she’s a virgin or not. here’s a crazy concept: you have no “right” to any part of another person’s body. not to see it, not to touch it, not to do anything to them or their body that they have not consented to.
Via: femasculine: prettyyoungtext:
Screw that. I put together a sheet of my own from various other sources to distribute to my classmates tomorrow. I would have liked to include a lot more information, but printing stuff costs money (specifically, my limited funds). With some careful formatting and double-sided printing, the text will fit onto one sheet of paper. I copy/pasted this from Word, so the format and bullet-points may look wonky, but you’re welcome to copy/paste/print this for your own means. Here we go:
What’s wrong with suggesting that women take precautions to prevent being raped?
It’s wrong because it puts the onus on women not to get themselves raped, rather than on men not to do the raping; in short, it blames the victim. (Finally Feminism 101)
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn’t have long hair and women shouldn’t wear short skirts. Women shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. Hell, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all. Instead of that bullshit, how about:
If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
If a woman is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
Don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself. (Men Can Stop Rape)
In case you aren’t sure how to avoid raping, here are a few questions you may want to ask yourself:
© How do you define consent? Have you ever talked about consent with your partner(s) or friends?
© Do you think it is the other person’s responsibility to say something if they aren’t into what you’re doing? How might someone express that what is happening is not OK? Do you think it is possible to misinterpret silence for consent? Do you think silence is consent?
© Do you check in as things progress or do you assume the original consent means everything is OK? If someone consents to one thing, do you assume everything else is OK or do you ask before taking things to a different level? Do you think consent can be withdrawn after it’s been given?
© Do you pursue someone sexually even after they have said they just want to be friends? Do you assume that if someone is affectionate they are probably sexually interested in you? Are you clear about your own intentions?
© Have you ever tried to talk someone into doing something they showed hesitancy about?
© If someone is promiscuous, do you think it’s less important to get consent?
© Do you ever try to get yourself into situations that give you an excuse for touching someone you think would say no if you asked? (i.e., Dancing, getting drunk around them, falling asleep next to them.)
© Do you ever feel obligated to have sex? Do you ever feel obligated to initiate sex? Do you ever try and make bargains? (i.e., “If you let me______, I’ll do ______for you?”)
© Do you feel like being in a relationship with someone means that they have an obligation to have sex with you? What if they want to abstain from sex? Do you whine or threaten if you’re not having the amount of sex or kind of sex that you want?
© Do you think it’s OK to initiate something sexual with someone who’s sleeping? What if the person is your partner?
© Have you been sexual with people when you were drunk or when they were drunk? Do you seek consent the same way when you are drunk as when you’re sober?
© Do you initiate conversations about safe sex and birth control applicably? Do you think saying something as vague as “I’ve been tested recently” is enough?
© Do you think if a person has a body that can get pregnant, it’s up to that person to provide birth control? Do you complain or refuse safe sex or the type of birth control your partner wants to use because it reduces your pleasure?
© Do you think only men abuse? Do you think that in a relationship between people of the same gender, only the one who is more “manly” abuses?
You may want to keep in mind that rapists are often not strangers.
© 73% of sexual assaults were perpetrated by a non-stranger.
© 38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance.
© 28% are an intimate.
© 7% are a relative.
Rapists are rarely hiding in the bushes. More than 50% of all rape/sexual assault incidents were reported by victims to have occurred within 1 mile of their home or at their home.
© 4 in 10 take place at the victim’s home.
© 2 in 10 take place at the home of a friend, neighbor, or relative.
© 1 in 12 takes place in a parking garage.
© The average age of a rapist is 31 years old.
© 52% are white.
© 22% of imprisoned rapists report that they are married.
© In 1 in 3 sexual assaults, the perpetrator was intoxicated — 30% with alcohol, 4% with drugs.
© In 2001, 11% of rapes involved the use of a weapon.
© 84% of victims reported the use of physical force only.
Rapists rarely serve time in jail for their crimes. 60% of rapes/sexual assaults are not reported to the police, according to a statistical average of the past 5 years. Those rapists, of course, never spend a day in prison. Factoring in unreported rapes, only about 6% of rapists ever serve a day in jail. (Rape Abuse & Incest National Network)
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